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'My mum in India was willing to lose everything to support my trans identity'

2025-04-03 00:00:07

In 2019 Srija became the first transgender woman to legally marry in the Indian state of Tamil Nadu after a historic court ruling. Now a new documentary, Amma's Pride, chronicles Srija's battle for state recognition of her marriage and the unwavering support of her mother, Valli.

Even before battling to have her marriage recognised by the state, Srija and her family faced hostility and mistreatment.

After Srija came out as a transgender woman at the age of 17, she and her mother and younger brother, China, were evicted from their home by their landlord.

Several family members stopped speaking to them.

But Srija's mother and brother were steadfast in their support.

"I will always stand by my daughter," says Valli.

"All trans people should be supported by their family."

Valli, who became a single parent when her husband died when Srija was just six, works in a kitchen at a school.

But despite earning a modest income, she helped pay for her daughter's gender reassignment, in part by selling some of her jewellery, and cared for her afterwards.

"She takes good care of me," Srija says.

There are thought to be about two million transgender people in India, the world's most populous country, although activists say the number is higher.

While the country has passed trans-inclusive legislation and recognised in law a "third gender", stigma and discrimination remain.

Studies have found transgender people in India face high rates of abuse, mental health issues, and limited access to education, employment, and healthcare. Many are forced to beg or enter sex work.

Globally, the UN says significant numbers of transgender people face rejection from their families.

"Not a lot of trans people in India, or even the world, have the support of their families," says filmmaker, Shiva Krish.

"Srija and Valli's story is unique."

Srija says she hopes the film will help challenge stereotypes about trans people and the types of stories that are often promoted in the media about the group - especially those that focus on trauma and abuse.

"This documentary shows that we can be leaders. I am a manager, a productive member of the workforce," Srija says.

"When people see new kinds of stories on trans people, hopefully their mindsets will also change."

After premiering at international film festivals, Amma's Pride was shown at a special screening in Chennai, for members of the LGBT community and allies, to mark International Trans Day of Visibility on Monday 31 March.

Following the Chennai screening, a workshop was held where participants in small groups discussed family acceptance and community support for trans individuals.

"We hope our screening events will foster connections between trans individuals, their families, and local communities," adds Chithra Jeyaram, another one of the filmmakers behind Amma's Pride.

The Amma's Pride production team hope that the universal themes of family support in the face of stigma means the documentary and workshops can be rolled out to rural audiences, as well as other cities in India, and neighbouring countries like Nepal and Bangladesh.

As for Srija and Arun, they now work as managers for private companies and hope to adopt a child soon. "We're hoping for a normal future," says Srija.

"I would like to become a grandmother soon," Valli adds, smiling.