'You are willing to lose the money, but not the person' says romance scam victim

Romance fraud, a growing crime that targets both the heart and the pocket, saw an estimated £106m lost by UK victims in the past financial year.

One of those who lost money and a romance was Varun Yadav, a London banker who hoped to find a life partner on a dating app.

Now £40,000 poorer after being persuaded to invest in crypto trading, he said he saw the warning signs but was so emotionally attached he ignored his suspicions. When he realised what had happened, fear and shame kept him quiet.

Action Fraud, which published the figures, said it can have a serious impact on victims, "not just financially but emotionally, socially and even physically".

The Financial Conduct Authority (FCA) said banks were missing opportunities to help break the spell of romance scams.

Better detection and monitoring systems, identifying vulnerability early on, and compassionate aftercare would all improve outcomes for victims.

Firms needed to train staff to spot red flags and critically probe customer explanations, it said.

Mr Yadav's initial caution about a cryptocurrency platform called Deuncoin was assuaged by the fact he could withdraw money.

Then he made a big loss, and "Rekha Shah" asked him to put in all his savings to recover the losses. Once done, he was suddenly unable to withdraw the funds, and he realised "it was all one big scam".

"I thought, I've lost everything. I've lost the person I thought was going to be my life partner, I've lost all my life savings."

He said losing the money initially was a red flag but he "ignored the signs because of the fear and the shame".

Mr Yadav said he hoped sharing his story would help ensure others do not have to face what he went through alone.

"When I shared my story with my friends, a lot of them said they'd been part of a similar scam, but were too ashamed to say it.

"This is a trauma that will stay with me for life, but I've learnt coping mechanisms and rebuilt my life. There is hope."

Romance fraud involves fraudsters creating fake online personas to gain someone's trust and affection through the guise of a romantic relationship, and ultimately exploiting them for money.

They manipulate, persuade and exploit victims, often encouraging them to isolate themselves socially and requiring urgency and secrecy from the victim.

Action Fraud, the national body for reporting such scams, has key tips for protecting yourself against romance fraud which include:

Earlier this month, the Metropolitan Police launched a campaign to help prevent people like Mr Yadav from getting scammed.

This included videos giving real-life accounts from victims, showing what romance fraud looked like, how to prevent it, and where to get further support if needed.

They have also undertaken intelligence sharing to trace suspects overseas, and collaborated with banks, dating apps and social media sites to identify fraud.

Det Supt Kerry Wood, head of economic crime for the Met Police, said romance fraud was "one of the most devastating".

"It's an abuse of trust which has a devastating impact on people's confidence and sense of self-worth.

"Awareness is the most powerful defence against fraud. By talking openly, we can protect ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities from this deeply personal and damaging crime and bring those responsible to justice."

Mr Yadav was not able to recover the money he lost, but said he had "made his peace with it" and has rebuilt his life since.

He is now encouraging anyone going through romance fraud to reach out to family, friends and colleagues and most importantly "do not isolate yourself".